Its been a long time i didn't post anything in my blog.. well, this time i would like to share the experience I gained during my English Language Camp 2013... I will shorten my words and post as many photos as i can.. so, enjoy.. :)

Time Out with Personality ^^v

Married or Not, you should read this!!

*It's good to have a break sometime*

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. If you are not in a relationship now, remember this for the second (or third) time around. It's never too late.

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. ♥

Realising the Importance of English Language!!

Today is Monday, 8 April 2013.
Well, today I would love to share to all the bloggers that I have submitted my LDS assignment. It feels good  and yet another assignment comes! Pendidikan Moral with 1000 words essaySSS... Yes, we have two essays to be submitted. But that one will be done latter part.

Today, my lecturers assigned me and few of my friends to do an essay on the above topic. It's quite a debatable topic because, you know english is VERY important in today's world! Even if you go every countries, all you can see is ENGLISH is being used! Even in the communication part, it english that is being used! So, it is undeniable that the power of English is everywhere. 

Here's my essay. 
P/S: Sorry if there are Grammatical errors. Well, Im still learning!! ^^v

English is not only regarded as the International language, but it is also used as the main language in colleges and universities in Malaysia as well as the other countries. Therefore, students who would like to pursue their studies in the higher level need to master English because there are many advantages if the person has a good proficiency in the language.

Nowadays, it is undeniable that many students who have been using their mother tongue in their primary and secondary schools are having such problems in communicating English. Plus, some of them may experience a culture shock when they proceed to their tertiary education. Why is this happening? This is because the lecturers, notes given, instruction, task are mostly conducted in English. Not just that, students who have been using Bahasa Malaysia as their main language in school will also experience the hardship where they may not be able to make head nor tail of what have the lecturers are teaching. As a result, there are many failures in the final examination.

The students who are weak in English language will also experience the problems when it comes to assignments, tutorial tasks, presentations that are assigned by the lecturers. Most students who are weak will have problems in their reading skills. Thus, they will not be able to understand the question required as well as finding materials that are essential in aiding them to complete their tasks or assignments. This can be proven because the internet that provides information is mostly written in English language. Hence, students will struggle to do their research. Apart from that, they will also having troubles in writing skills. The lack of proficiency in the language will affect the writing skills as they do not how to construct a sentence with no grammatical errors. All these problems may leads to many failures in the exam because they are not able to understand the question required.

Besides, without a good command of English, communication with another person will also get affected.   How does this happen? Students who are weak in communicating English will tend to not speak the language among their friends because they afraid of making mistakes especially when it comes to grammar usage. In contrast, the students who are high proficiency in the language also will not speak English among the students who are very weak in English language. This kind of weird situation does not help the low proficiency students and it will also affect their self-esteem. Plus, speaking English among friends that are very fluent in the language also affect the students that are not. Sometimes, they are fear of being a laughing stock. In the long run, they will develop a phobia or dislike of speaking English and perform badly in their studies as well as their social interactions.

Finally, a good command of the language is crucial for those who want to pursue their studies in the overseas or seek for a job. Those who intend to further their studies in the renowned countries such as United Kingdom, New Zealand, and Australia should be reminded that the language that is being used in these universities is English. They are not only using English in the campus but also as the main language to communicate among the society. Moreover, those who intend to apply for a job should at least fulfill the requirement which is a good command of spoken and written English. Therefore, those who excel in English language will be an advantage for them to seek for a good job indeed.

In brief, everyone should realise that English language is very important nowadays. In order to do so, tertiary students should pull up their socks to master English so that they can sail through their studies and future smoothly.

So, how was it? Did you find it interesting to learn English? I tell you one thing that I can be sure of, learning English is FUN and INTERESTING! You won't find other language as interesting as English!! Together, let's learn English language!!

Ler's do this!!

Creating Blog! ^^v

Well, it's my very first time to create this kind of, so called social networking. Due to my responsibility as a trainee teacher, we were asked to start blogging.  As it was required by our Learning Support's lecturer, so, we have no choice but to do it. I find it hard to start blogging.

Yes! Good question! To blog or not to blog?? 

Well, I ever planned to make my own blog when I was 16, if I'm not mistaken.... But, yeah.. Blog! The commitment must be there in order to maintain the "posting". I have no time during that time.. As for now, not to say that I am free all the time, no! My schedule is packed with assignments, task, presentation, ETc! ETC! ETC! It is a must for me, and i'll take this as my challenge to managed my own blog as "grand" as possible.... 

Till then... Bye!! :)

So, can we call it a day??

It is Saturday today!!! Yeah!! What does Saturday means? Sleep! Eating! Midvalley! Etc!Etc!Etc! UNFORTUNATELY, we were asked to organised a friendly match in Stadium Hockey KL. I was sooooooooooooooo freaking tired and lazy to play. Plus, the weather must be hot and I just don't have the mood to do any activities. I need some REST!


O well, student's life... I can't run away from the responsibility. And the good news was, we won the match!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YEAH!! ahahah!! Although I was just the hockey goal keeper (and I am not really a good goalkeeper, yes I admit that), but I quite satisfied because my team members were all supportive and we work as a team!! What's gonna work? team work!! bla bla bla...

This is my team members!! The Black Team! :)

So, after the match had finished, all of us went back to our hostel.. AT LAST!!!
Me and some of my friends went to Midvalley and had our dinner there too! All my tiredness paid off as I ate twice for my dinner!!! I know I have gained weight!!! Who cares about weight right? ^^

Anyway, thats all for today.. Will write more soon..

Till then, BYE! :DDD